Well the inevitable has happened and I have received my 2nd (in 3 years) negative feedback from a buyer. To be completely honest I had to wait a day before I was calm enough to write about it. My feelings are hurt and I am angry. I am not a perfect EBay seller or even the best EBay seller but what I am is reasonable, polite and quite happy to work with buyers who are dissatisfied.
This brings me to myschatz2007, who left me negative feedback in all caps (I believe this is universally excepted as yelling in print) with lots of exclamation points. The gist of it was that I was cheap because I used a Cheez-It box to ship the item in. I confess I am guilty as charged. I am a recycler / upcycler as you can see from many of my other posts. At any rate due to my "inferior" packing the item was damaged. I fully understand that at this point the buyer would have some dissatisfaction with their purchase.
What I don't understand is their need to be rude and their unwillingness to let me try to fix the problem. In addition to not being the perfect EBay Seller I am also not a mind reader particularly across continental borders. Had I heard from this buyer I would have promptly refunded there payment with an apology.
So myschatz2007 here is what I really want to say to you. You are every EBay sellers nightmare. I looked at all the feedback you have left for other sellers. I am not the only one you slammed with your rude comments. You should learn some manners and common courtesy. If you were an EBay seller there is no doubt you would have a better appreciation for the communication portion of the EBay system. It is my experience that most sellers take their business seriously and really want their customers to be happy. Many like me would have sent a refund it's actually a win / win situation. You just have to give them the chance.
I volunteered to host Mothers Day this year since I am the only non-mom in the family. My wonderful SO (significant other) offered to do all the cooking. He actually likes that kind of stuff, imagine! This was fine by me as my specialty is frozen pizza and sometimes even that seems like too much trouble. You might be thinking this left me with nothing to do but bask in the glory of faux hostess but you would be wrong. With no cooking responsibilities to worry about I turned my attention to decorating and as sometimes happens in my life the party took on a life of its own.
My family asked me how I came up with the idea. I don't really know. One minute I was trying to think of some fun decorations for kids and adults and the next I was planning a full on Gypsy Mother's Day!!
Come see for yourself!! It was easy and fun.
It started with a lot of fabric.
Fabric for curtain's. Fabric for room dividers and fabric to cover the couch.
For the "Crystal Ball" I bought a round globe for a lamp for $5.00 at Lowe's. A thrift store table for $3.99 that SO cut a hole in for me and the fun part was the bulb. It was blue which you can't really tell from this picture.
Next came some thrift store nick knacks.
And dried flower bouquets.
A lot of candles.
and whole bunch of necklaces.
The table was a little tricky since I needed place settings for 11. I had to round up ever available table and chair we had. And I needed what else but more fabric.
The place settings were fun to do. I pulled out all my dishes and glasses and mixed them up all over the table so nothing matched, added a couple of wine bottles and some bouquets in jelly jar vases.
Do you believe in serendipity? I do. Once I had decided on the Gypsy theme I was thrift store shopping to find some more fabric pieces and other odds and ends when what did I discover? Not one but two doorway curtains! One was beaded and one was fringe. I couldn't have been more delighted.
I thought about warning all the guest that we were having a Gypsy Mother's Day but I decided I wanted it to be a surprise. And since you can't have a Gypsy party without Gypsy costumes once again the thrift store saved the day. I found all sorts of fun and colorful vests and sashes for the men and scarfs and skirts for the women.
I put the costumes on the backs of the chairs and some jewelry on the place settings.
Here are a couple of the costumes.
What Gypsy Party would be complete without Gypsy Music? (Gypsy Grooveby Putumayo Presents and Gypsy Firewere the 2 Cd's that I found. You can give them a listen at Amazon.com.
Last Saturday I attended an all day event called "The Un-Job Fair" put on by Colorado Free University. It was geared toward the self-employed. Isn't that the greatest concept? I have never been to an actual "Job Fair" but my impression is that it benefits the employers and not the job seekers as there are no doubt more job seekers than actuall job openings. But at the "Un-Job Fair" all the "seekers" are actually in a position to create their own income earning ideas. I don't mean to imply that the process of self-employment isn't without it's rough spots. Sometimes the road seems impassable but the possibilities are endless and with creative thinking and persistence it is possible to move forward.
I consider myself to be partially self-employed and I am working toward full time self-employment. So the idea packed day of encouragement was well worth the small fee I paid. I wish they would have a workshop like that every month! I wish more people were curious and courageous enough to take this path. Sometimes it is a little lonely. But it is encouraging to see events like this one particularly because it was well attended and Colorado Free University offers many classes throughout the year geared toward the self-employed. Here are a couple that interest me. Start Your Own Greeting Card Company, Smart Women Decorate with Thrift and Cooking for your Dog. This may seem like a very random list but variety is the greatest thing about self-employment. When you are your own boss you aren't locked into anyone thing anymore than you are locked in a cubicle. You can explore your interests and sometimes those interest can become income generators.
One of the presenters was Barbara Winter. She has been a great source of inspiration to me over the last several years. I will leave you with this quote from her because it is such a perfect summary of why the path of self-employment is worth the risk for me and I suspect for many.
"I became an entrepreneur to see what I could become. It was a curiosity not shared by any employer I ever had."